Un·a·pol·o·get·i·cal·ly - in a manner that does not acknowledge or express regret
The older I get the more I realize the things that bothered me as a child, teenager, and a young woman never really mattered. I think in the world we live in causes us to be afraid to be ourselves. Afraid of judgments. Worried what people may think about the way we look, dress, talk, act, respond to questions, our past, and the list goes on. So, we become someone else when we are around different people in hopes that we won’t offend them for being ourselves. Don’t be so happy, don’t be so proud of your achievements, don’t show off, don’t brag.
Of course, we never do these things, but the world praises the positive attitude and celebrating successes but only if everyone else around you are also achieving it. Yes, pure bull crap. Why should we be ashamed of being proud of who we are? Who we have become? Our Achievements? The way we look, talk, act, and dress? Why should we hide who we are when the world wants us to celebrate it?
The media is one big contradict, they say don’t body shame, and companies now offer sizes for plus size women then on the flip side there’s people who criticize people for who they are through advertising women saying the perfect diet for the perfect body. There is no perfect body. No one is perfect and will never be, but the world causes you to chase this made up idea of what you are supposed to look like or act like and the list goes on. Trust me I wish I could make this up, but I study people, I have been doing this since I was a little girl, and I watch people say one thing but do the opposite. That’s why I always say actions speak louder than words. Don’t tell me, show me.
There are women that say they celebrate other women but then they bash them by criticizing them for how they look, what their hair looks like, including their body. Women we already have enough issues with ourselves so why would we add more to another woman’s plate. Men also criticize men by saying that they are not man enough, like there is a certain way that a man suppose to act. This ruins a man ego and self-esteem and we wonder why mental health is so high. Toxic people make it high and when we continue to bash people and celebrate them at the same time the world keeps going in the same direction, a circle. Nothing gets fix this way by criticizing others.
I had to finally just start listening to the voice inside of myself that tells me who I am and who I am becoming. I gave birth to three children and yes, I enjoy being a mother, but the aftereffect of a pregnancy is hard on a woman. Having children takes your body through a lot. It changes you hormonally, physically, and emotionally. You are filled with joy and excitement of becoming a mom but are unaware of what this tiny person will leave behind after birth.
Women are left with stretch marks, extra weight, and sometimes varicose veins and postpartum depression. I was left with stretch marks, extra weight, and varicose veins. I developed postpartum depression. I felt uncomfortable in a bathing suit. I felt uncomfortable in shorts, skirts, crop tops, and dresses. I did not feel beautiful after having a baby. Why? Because I was trying to get back to my old body after having the baby and was ashamed that the results were not happening quickly. I was so ready for my 6 weeks to be over so that I could start working out but after having a baby your body just needs to rest.
So many people criticize people for their weight gain, stretch marks, varicose veins, but these marks all came with the journey. If I could take away the scars, then I won’t be left with my story.
I am a mom, I have stretch marks, I have fat on my tummy, I have varicose veins, but these are not who I am. I am brilliant, radiant, magnificent, gorgeous, I love me for me, and I love my body.
Today I want you to start loving your body more. Don’t try to change how you look to please others, do what makes you happy.
Learn to be unapologetically you. Love your imperfections. Own your strengths and weaknesses, dreams, desires, and fears. All the pieces that make you who you are. From your head to your toe learn to love who you are.
“Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful, and magical person that you really are.”