I can’t believe that 2020 is less than two days away. Every year I always try to take my experiences and turn them into a lesson. This year had some amazing experiences. I learned a lot about myself and my husband. I had some ups and downs and through it all I am still standing. I think in life we often just want a fairy godmother to come to wave a wand and remove our problems. I used to believe they were real as a child and as an adult I knew they weren’t, but I just wanted someone else to come to fix everything. My life isn’t broken by any means but there are times when I just want someone else to take care of my errands, clean my house, cook, the list of tasks goes on.
I have been taking care of myself since I was 17 and no matter what situation I was faced with I learned how to grow from it. So, this year as I look back at my experiences, I learned that I must be my own fairy godmother. No one is going to wave their wand. Opportunities don’t come to you in bed. Success doesn’t come knocking at your door. If you want something in life you have to go after it. Stop being afraid of people saying no because in life you are going to receive a lot of no’s but what you do with those no’s is what’s important. Though I have an amazing husband I also can not rely on him to accomplish the things I want in life, he can be supportive but its not up to him to help me achieve them. My friends and family also are not responsible for my goals. I learn that we can not expect people to support us because our vision isn’t everyone else’s.
This might sound silly, but I was listening to Ed Mylett podcast and his guest speaker Matthew Hussey said something that made sense to me. He said verbatim we should ask ourselves “why is my partner scared of this, is there a motive behind this” on why they are not supporting us. He also says “people should consider that starting a business and going all in on that business is in many cases a highly highly selfish thing to do, and that you shouldn’t always ask the people around you to thank you for the most selfish thing you ever done, you’re saying why can’t you support me in my dream.” Then he adds “what if your partner decides to go after their goals and suddenly, they didn’t have evenings or weekends or time maybe you wouldn’t be so cozy with that.”
The moral of the story is starting a business or accomplishing our goals is our vision for our life and when we go after a goal, we often take something away from our love ones and friends. The thing that we take away the most is time with them so sometimes it may be hard for them to support you when they think they are losing you. You were always available and know you are not, so we must often look at the other side of the story not just ours. Its good to have support from love ones but we can’t expect them to have our same vision, just because they don’t support us doesn’t mean they don’t love us.
We are our own fairy godmothers and its time that we start making our dreams come true, stop looking for others to cheer you own when your passion should be enough. There are going to be some ups and downs and some setbacks, you’re going to make a lot of mistakes, I did, and I still am. I don’t sit around and wallow in pity because if I do, I am hindering myself from accomplishing anything I set out to do for the day.
Life would be easy if someone wave their wand, but it is more satisfying knowing that you accomplish something on your own. True satisfaction is when hard work pays off with an award. Today as the year goes to an end, I want to change your viewpoint, we must get this concept out of our mind that people we love suppose to support our visions. Starting a business or accomplishing goals takes away time from people you love, so try to understand that its not you its them. Today I challenge you to go after your dreams with or without support.
"Stay positive, work hard, make it happen." — Unknown