It’s summertime and people who complained about the cold weather are now complaining about the hot weather. Sometimes I wonder if people are ever happy. The truth is a lot of people are not. We love the winter when it’s hot and the summer when it’s cold. Living in South Carolina you’re going to experience cold weather, hot summer days, and the spring and fall give us the warm days. Sometimes the heat can be unbearable, but I find joy in the seasons of life. Going through winter, spring, summer, and fall is a reminder that life has seasons not just weather seasons.
I can recall times in my life when it was difficult, but I got through that season and now I’m in another one. We are always going to have something that we are going through especially when you are working towards something in life. For example, I went through a season when I didn’t have a car now, I have one. When I didn’t have a car, I had to figure out how I was going to get to work every day. I didn’t focus on not having a car because if I did, I wouldn’t be able to focus on finding transportation.
When we go through things it’s best to figure out how to get through it. If I sat for too long, then I would miss days of work and become depressed. Having transportation is important and when you don’t have a car it makes you value having any form of four wheels. I didn’t care what type of car I had I just needed something to drive. I now have two cars because I told myself I won’t ever be in a situation like that again. If one of my cars are in the shop, I can drive my other one. In life we go through seasons to teach us things. When we are going through something, we must figure out what can we learn from it? So many people become so depressed during the difficulties in life that they miss the lesson and then they find themselves back in the same situation again and again until they figure out the lesson.
Trust me I have made multiple mistakes more than once. There is a quote by Ed Mylett that says, “a mistake repeated more than once is a decision,” and until we get this, we will constantly find ourselves making the same mistakes. It took me finally admitting I must be doing something wrong. I had to ask for help because I didn’t know what I was doing wrong in my life. We often want to have everything in our life figured out but if you have people that love you let them help you.
They might even need your help as well. The independent person that I am sometimes I struggle with asking for help. I been practicing independence since I was four years old according to my mom but now, I realized that I can still be independent and ask for help. It’s not a sign of weakness it’s a sign of maturity. I thought if I didn’t have my life together that something was wrong, but we can’t have it together all the time. It’s okay to ask for help. No one has it together all the time. What we struggle with someone has or will struggle with. We are all humans; no person is perfect. We are all striving to become the best versions of ourselves and admitting we need help is the first step in getting our life back on track.
I want to remind you today to ask for help if you need it. Don’t be ashamed of your struggles, we all have them. They might not always look the same as someone else’s but it’s okay. Life is full of seasons. Everything we go through helps us grow. Stop asking yourself why this is happening and start telling yourself how you will get through it. In order to grow and get through those seasons you must be willing to push through no matter what.
“When you replace “why this is happening to me” with “what is this trying to teach me?” everything shifts.”-unknown