Love isn’t complicated. At least that’s what I think. Being married to my husband is truly amazing. He has been with me through my ups and downs and he has help me through them. I often wondered how I got so lucky? This weekend is our wedding anniversary and as I reminisce on our life together, I realized that I found someone who believes in me. I know I always tell people that there will be times when no one will believe in us. I stress the importance of self-belief, but when you have someone who supports your dream it makes the journey even better. Trust me no one has the right to believe in us. We are not entitled to that. Having him believe in me is one of the things that has helped me stay motivated. Sometimes people see things in us that we often don’t see in ourselves. He sees in me greatness even when I am drowning.
We can be our worst critic. We beat ourselves up and often don’t acknowledge our progress. At least that’s how I been at times. He has been my rock, comfort, support, and all and sometimes I wonder if I’m living in a dream. Being in a relationship is scary sometimes because no one wants to be hurt. We’re vulnerable and sometimes we give our all to the wrong person. When we started dating, I realized that he was the one. It was a feeling I felt inside. My mind, heart, and body were telling me that I could trust him.
So many people want a relationship where they can trust someone with their heart, but the truth is everything in life is a risk. I had to be willing to let down my walls and let him in. If I don’t give my relationship 100% then it won’t work. Same for him if he doesn’t put 100% in it then it will not be a long, loving, and fulfilled marriage. Everything in life requires us to give 100% if we want it to work but it starts with belief. You must believe in yourself and having someone else’s believe in you helps when you don’t think you’re worthy.
Finding someone who believes in you doesn’t necessarily have to be a spouse. When you are on the journey of self-development your manager, coaches, friends, family, and neighbors these can be people in your life that may believe in you. If they don’t then limit your time with them. We don’t need naysayers, haters, and negativity. We need positivity, cheerleaders, motivators, this is what’s going to help us keep going. You must get rid of anyone that is bringing you down and get out and find you some friends. Not just any friends but supportive friends. Friends that push you and challenge you at the same time. Friends that help you grow and you both grow together. If you are not growing it might be a sign that you are surrounded by the wrong type of people. If all you have is social friends in your life is going to be difficult for you to accomplish the goals, you want in life.
Having people in your life that believe in you is important. They are not going to complete your goals for you they are merely in your life for support. They give you advice or push you when you feel like it’s tough. So, remember today find people who believe in you. Surround yourself with good energy. The best feeling is when you have others that support and believe and the goals you have set for your life.
Today start thinking about the people who support you. If you don’t have anyone in your life, then ask yourself why? Do you have people in your life that constantly drains your soul and when they finish you don’t have energy to focus on yourself? If you answered yes to these questions, it’s time you get out and find you some people that believe in you. I started networking this year and I met some amazing people. There are people out there we just must get out of our comfort zone and go find them.
“Distance yourself from negative people who try to lower your motivation and decrease your ambition. Create space for positive people to come into your life. Surround yourself with positive people who believe in your dreams, encourage your ideas, support your ambitions, and bring out the best in you.”