“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” – Aristotle
As I reflect on history, I think about how surviving has changed. Technology and civilization have made a difference in how humans survive in this day in age. Humans used to hunt and grow their food, make fires to cook their food, and sterilize their own water. Surviving was more physical then mental.
Now fast forward to this generation where food is already prepared in the stores, no one hunt for food unless they want to. Fruit and vegetables are readily available. Surviving physically is so much easier now. In an economy like America that has technology at the tips of their hands the means to survive mentally is more important now than it has ever been. Suicide, depression, stress is higher in this generation because mental toughness is hard to build. Our mind is constantly over stimulated. Even if you wanted to avoid technology you couldn’t. It’s everywhere. Unless you live off the grid you are affected by the trials and tribulations of everyday life.
In this generation I can see a major difference in the children growing up versus me when I was growing up. Yes, we had technology, but it wasn’t advanced. I didn’t have to worry about having a smartphone or an iPad to be cool because they were not invented. Writing letters to friends was still cool now we text each other.
Dealing with losing myself mentally I understand how hard life can gets. I could do the physical things but if my mind said no, I followed. That’s where the phrase “I don’t feel like it” comes from. If you’re not mentally feeling it then your body will not respond. One of my favorite quotes from this week was “Your body won't go where your mind won't push it." Which is confirmation that with mental strength our body will follow. Our body is already capable of doing something it’s our mind we have to convince. There are times when I rather lay in bed then get up because I’m mentally tired. Our bodies are powerful, and we can push them to do the impossible. Olympic athletes are a prime example of what our bodies can do.
So how do you survive mentally when you feel like your life is falling apart? It takes changing your mindset. We can’t go to the gym to develop mental strength, so we must try a different approach. When you don’t feel like doing something change the way you see the task. Think of reasons why you should do the task including the benefits it has for your life. Secondly just do it. Sometimes it takes just getting up off the couch or out your bed and doing something no matter how you are feeling mentally. Evaluate your crew. The people you hang around including family can have a negative impact on how you see life. If they are always unhappy and complaining this also rubs off on you and it drains you mentally which in return makes you want to give up.
If you are not mentally strong then this can negatively impact your life. Lastly what you listen to matters. The people you listen to including music or the things you watch on television and electronic devices. This can have a negative impact on your life. If you are constantly looking at drama television shows and depressed shows, you’re welcoming drama and depression in your life. Listening to sad music causes your body to go through all these emotions. Yes, it’s good to experience emotions but it can also have a negative impact on us if we don’t know what to do once we experience the emotion.
Developing mental toughness requires you to evaluate everything you are exposed to in your life. The things you listen to. The people you talk to. These affects you mentally. We already have enough issues in our own lives so adding negative sources just makes it worst. If you want to develop mental toughness, it’s going to require you to start putting yourself first. We are only strong when we decide to take care of ourselves. I truly believe if you take care of yourself then you can deal with everyone else.
So remember today our bodies will go where our minds will take it. You can develop mental toughness, just believe in yourself.
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“The ability to continue moving when you are feeling scared, fearful or lazy is the sign of true mental strength.” – Matthew Donnelly