Standards are something we establish for ourselves. It’s what we aspire to be. What we choose to tolerate from ourselves and others. The quality of life we want to have. The behaviors we choose to indulge. These are all a part of the standards we establish for our lives.
Raising your standards is important if you don’t want to be mediocre. We should be striving to be the best version of ourselves. Having high standards is not only important for personal development but also for our relationships. What we allow people to do to us is based on the standards we set for ourselves.
I recently was speaking with a young woman and she told me that she has been dating her boyfriend for years. When Valentine came, he gave her a promise ring and told her to act as if they were already engaged. I asked her how she felt about it. She wanted a wedding ring. She wanted more considering they have been together over five years. I told her to talk to him but she’s afraid to talk to him because he has anger problems. So, then I asked her can you see yourself with him for the rest of your life? She answered and said no. I told her then you must decide what you want to do.
In a marriage or any relationship if you can’t communicate your feelings then it’s pointless to be with that person. I don’t agree with rushing things, but I think that it’s normal for her to want to be married to someone she has shared years of her life with. Since she didn’t communicate her standards in the relationship, he continued to get away with treating her unfairly.
A lot of people suffer in the relationship standards department. Not saying people don’t set any standards in relationships. We just forget about them when we’re in love. We allow people we love to walk over on us because we’re afraid of hurting them by telling them how we feel. Don’t allow people to continue to control and walk all over you. If you can’t express yourself then you are in a relationship with the wrong people.
Raise your personal standards that you have set for your life. Personal growth is part of your standards. Set your goals high and go out and achieve them. Don’t give up until you have them. If you’re tired of living in the state that you are in. Raise your standards. Know your priorities and stick to them. Change the way you look at everything. When you are striving to succeed and move forward you must change your whole mindset. You must be willing to become a new person. The best version of yourself.
Remember today to establish ground rules for yourself and stick to them. Your life, relationships, and personal growth is guided by the standards you choose to set for yourself. Raise your standards high and believe in yourself.
“If you want to change your life you have to raise your standards.” Tony Robbins