Asking for help is extremely hard for me. Before I met my husband I was a single mother. I had two small children and they depended on me to survive. Before I had children my mom had a stroke after I graduated from high school. She was my main source of dependence. I had to learn how to depend on myself. Yes I had outside sources helping me. Like my older sister allowing me to live with her after our mom was unable to provide for me. I helped her around her house and did what I could as a 17 year old. I just always been an independent person.
I can recall picking out my clothes as a child and getting myself dress. I didn’t want my mom help. I wanted to do it all by myself. Even if I struggled with the task I felt content to do it on my own. When I met my husband it was hard for me to allow him to help me. I use try to do everything on my own and I still do sometimes but I had to realize it’s okay to ask for help. While you are working on completing your goals and resolutions you don’t have to do it alone. Of course someone isn’t going to do the hard work for you but they can help alleviate the load.
For example if you’re trying to start a business talk to someone who has a business. They can answer questions for you on how to start a business and give you tips and share their struggles and mistakes. If you want to lose weight reaching out to a personal trainer or your doctor can be helpful. If you have a bad habit that you want to break talk to someone you know and trust that can hold you accountable for your actions. So when you have the urge you can call them. Don’t ever be ashamed to ask for help. I use to struggle with this because I like to try to do things on my own because I didn’t want to bother people. I could be pulling my hair out, stressed, feeling half way dead and I wouldn’t ask for help.
Recently I paid to have my website redesign. I always wanted to change the colors and the complete layout but I was having trouble designing it myself. I reached out to multiple people and it was too expensive. So I told myself maybe I can do. After playing around with it on and off for months I finally gave up. I reach out to a lady who does websites revamping and I paid her and she had it done in two days. Something that took me months took her two days.
There’s nothing wrong with asking for help. It doesn’t mean you are needy. Sometime we need people to help alleviate our workload. That’s why the service businesses will always be around. Dry cleaning, housekeeping, plumbers, carpet cleaners, personal shoppers, these are examples of service that were designed to help make our life better. Though these services are not free. They are available when you need a extra hand.
Walmart, Target, and a lot of other businesses now have curbside service. Items you buy online can be pick up at the store and they load it in your car for free. The world was design for us to help each other. Whatever you might be talented at someone else might need your help in. Whatever you’re not good at someone else can help you out. It’s like bartering our talents.
So, remember today while you are working on your goals and resolutions don’t be ashamed to ask for help. You can still be independent and ask for help at the same time. There’s a lot of time wasted when you decide to do everything on your own.
“Refusing to ask for help when you need it is refusing someone the chance to help.” -Ric Ocasek