Before I met my husband, I thought a lot about the relationships I had been through. I was dating an abusive man, and I was going to stay with him, even though I wasn’t happy. I thought this was what love felt like, but I was wrong. I wasn’t in love with him, I was settling for my children. He was a great father to the children, but he wasn’t a great boyfriend. Everyone longs for someone to be a great father to their children, but is it hard to find a man that is a great father, and boyfriend? Love doesn’t treat you like that, I was confused, I was stuck between, should I stay, or should I go? I didn’t think there was such a thing as true love, and I didn’t think that anyone will love me. I was very self-conscience, during that time in my life, and he did a good job at reminding me, no one would want me, but him. I kept thinking over, and over, no one would want me, why would someone love me, do I deserve real love? There’s people all over the world, settling, people are tired of dating, and they are dating someone, even if they know it isn’t a good relationship, its better being with someone, then being alone. In my mind, I didn’t want to start over, I felt like true love didn’t exist. The friends I had at that time in my life, were in similar relationships, minus the abuse. My friends were dating men that did not love them, and they didn’t love them either. They didn’t believe in real love, they just enjoy having someone to call their mate. Dating to me, is serious. When I dated, I was looking for a potential husband, someone to love, and love me back. I didn’t want to get married to someone, that didn’t deserve my love. When I got out of that relationship, I gain my self-esteem, I became happier, and I understood that I deserved more, I deserved love. No matter how we feel about ourselves, it doesn’t make us less loveable, we deserve true love because though it might not seem like real love exist, it still does. I deserved someone that made me feel special, gave me compliments, lifted me up, made me smile, when I was sad, took care of me, when I’m sick, supported me, loved me, and was my friend, I deserved love. Everyone deserves to be love, no matter what you have done in life, who you let down, and the mistakes that you made, we deserve love. The world is full of a lot of broken hearts, dysfunctional relationships, and lost people, searching for someone to make them feel like they are loved. When I met my husband, I knew I found the one that deserved my love. Remember today you don’t have to look a certain way to be love, love doesn’t come with requirements. True love wants you to be yourself, and everything else is a bonus. Spread love in this world as you go about your day because no matter how old, how young, how poor, how rich, people deserve love. If the world had more love, then it would be a better place. If you knew you deserved love, imagine how your life would be.
“I hope you know that you deserve it all. The best, the most honest, the most beautiful, and purest love in the world. Not only to be loved by others, but to be loved by yourself. To look in the mirror and think “yes” “I’m exactly who I want to be.” To speak up and be proud of yourself. To be brave and open. You deserve the nicest and most caring people to walk into your life. You deserve it all, you know. The whole world, and you should never forget.” -unknown