I used to want to look a certain way. I wanted to have different color eyes, hair, skin, and the list goes on. I remember watching television as a child with my sister, and little niece, and we’ll fuss about which characters on the television we were. As a child you have a vivid imagination. I wanted to be storm from X-Men because she looks cool, and she made lighting, which was neat to me. I wanted to be all these different people, instead of myself. I saw uniqueness, and talent in these different characters, things that I admire, and dreamed to become. As I gotten older, of course reality sunk in. I knew that all the things I wanted to be and look like, was impossible. I can’t be a superhero, who flies. I can’t change my eye color, well with technology who knows, you probably can. My hair, and skin can be chemically changed, but it isn’t healthy for my body.
The things we long to changed, is being admired by someone else today. We spend so much time analyzing ourselves, when we should be embracing ourselves. Women are often made fun of for having a certain hair type, skin type, and body type. Society paints this picture of what women supposed to look like, which leave girls, and women with self-conscience issues, and insecurities. A lot of the issues we have as women, are stemmed from the things we watch on television. The girl with the glasses is overlook by a popular girl. The girl, or woman, who is overweight, is overlooked by the skinny girl, or woman. The thing on television automatically creates competition between women, and girls, which leads to us wanting to be different. We can continue to allow society to tell us what is perfect, or we can embrace our uniqueness. We can change everything about ourselves, and when we finish fixing everything you’re not happy with, that’s when you become someone else. I remember people saying, I look like my mom, and I didn’t like it. I used to think when people said that, it meant I looked old, but my mom is beautiful.
As a child, you don’t want to look like your parents because they look old to us, but now as I’ve gotten older, I don’t mind looking like my mom. I have freckles like my mom, and I have her eyes. I’m not ashamed of my flaws. I was obsessing over trying to fix myself, that I started losing myself. When I was constantly obsessing about the way I look, it was affecting my relationship with my spouse, and even my friends, I was never happy. That’s when I knew I had to change, how can I tell people it’s okay to be their selves, but try to change myself. I had to stop letting the world dictate what beautiful supposed to look like. Your uniqueness is what makes you beautiful, and here I was trying to become someone else. So, today be yourself. Love yourself, and don’t let anyone tell you that you are not beautiful. Change the world, don’t let the world change you, there’s so many followers, and not enough leaders. The moment you start changing yourself to please the world, the moment you become the world.
“Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you. Shout out loud, I am glad to be what I am. Thank goodness, I’m not a ham, or clam, or dusty old jar of gooseberry jam. I am what I am, what a great thing to be. If I say so myself, happy everyday to me!” -Dr.Suess