Have you ever felt like you were not good enough? I often felt like that before, I wondered was I good enough for my husband? Was I good enough to be a mom? Was I good enough for a position at my job? Was I good enough for my friends? Am I good enough, the answer is yes. There is never going to be the perfect person, we fall, we make mistakes, but when were are striving to do better, then that’s how you achieve growth. What is so shocking about feeling like you’re not enough, is when someone tells you that you’re enough. I remember someone telling me that I was a good mom, and that I was doing a good job with my children.
They didn’t know that I beat myself up about being a great mom, and the difficulty that I faced as being a mom. Being a mom is tough, and I often want to give up, then I ask myself, do I really want someone else raising my children? I read parental books, and articles on how to be a better parent, when I was already a good parent. When my children write notes telling me I’m the best mom in the world, these things reassure me that I’m enough. When my mom, and family members tell me that they are proud of me, I know that I’m enough. When my manager tells me to keep up the good work, I know that I’m enough. When my friends tell me that they are glad to have me as a friend, I know that I’m enough. Sometimes we need reassurance. We spend so much time beating ourselves up, when we need to start patting ourselves on the back.
Though we need reassurance from others, we need to reassure ourselves. Being the tough independent woman that I am, I’m always striving to be better. I like to fix things, to make them new, I look at situations, and try to figure out, how can I make it better? The best part about trying to be better is that you will always be growing, and maturing in life, if you didn’t think you had any problems to work on, then it will be hard to take guidance from someone who wants to learn you something new. I like learning new things, and I will continue to keep learning, while I’m alive. When you are constantly improving yourself, then you will always be successful. Successful people are striving for more, being better, is wanting more for yourself. Why, because you deserve better, anything that you put your mind to, you can achieve.
So, do I still feel like I’m not enough, no because I know I’m enough. When you reassure yourself each day that you are enough, then you will have a high self-esteem, and you can tackle any obstacle, that may come your way. Don’t worry about what the world says is enough, worry about what you think is enough. Don’t put yourself in the categories of others, your only competition should be yourself. When you compete with yourself, you won’t have time to worry about no one else. So today, look in the mirror, tell yourself you are beautiful, you are amazing, and you are enough.
“I am enough. I am full of sparkle and of compassion. I genuinely want to make the world a better place. I love hard. I practice kindness. I am not afraid of the truth. I am loyal, adventurous, supporting, and surprising. I am enough. I make mistakes, but I own them, and I learn from them. And sometimes I make a lot of mistakes. But I am enough.”- Molly Mahar
"Don't ever say you're not good enough. If that person can't see how amazing you are then they are the one who's not good enough for you" -Unknown