“An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
The thing that holds us back the most is hurt. When we hold on to the things people do to us, we can’t move forward. After a breakup it can be hurtful, but you must move on to welcome something new in your life. So, what you dated a jerk it happens, but it doesn’t mean you have to keep reminiscing on the bad relationship. This is what holds us back. People want more for their life regarding career, relationships, and personal development but often they find themselves stuck in the past. Why? Because moving on is hard. The uncertainty of the future is what causes people to hold on to the past, but we can’t have the things we seek when we’re stuck on what hurt us.
I was watching this reality show on television and the lady stated she haven’t been in a relationship for over ten years. Her last relationship ended bad and she decided to just focus on developing herself. After some time, she finally decided now was the perfect time to start dating. I do believe she took time to develop herself in those ten years, but I also know that during those ten years she was mourning her last relationship. Now I know that the reality shows are fake, and each person gets a storyline but there are people that have been single for ten years after a ruff breakup.
When someone hurts us our bodies natural instinct is to do anything to protect ourselves even if it means being alone. As people we often get bitter after being hurt. Most people don’t smile after someone hurts them. People are sad and disappointed after they been hurt. It happened to me. I was angry, sad, disappointed, and hurt but eventually I had to let go of those emotions and move on. If I held on to that pain, then I wouldn’t be able to succeed in any area of my life. Breakups are roadblocks. They can interfere with where we are and where we want to be. If you’re focused on yourself instead of if your ex notices your post on social media or trying to prove to everyone that you’re okay, then your focus is on the wrong thing. Yes, it’s good to move on but everyone doesn’t have to know that you’re doing better without your ex. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks. When someone hurt us, we want to show them that we are doing better but in reality, we can’t do better trying to show them how we are better without them.
We must let go of that pain and then show ourselves love by doing better because that’s our desire. A breakup or being let go from a company should never be what prompts us to go after our desires. This is a sign of revenge. A revengeful heart will never feel complete. We must have a heart of love, compassion, and forgiveness. Those who have done us wrong will have their karma don’t let it change us. If you were a nice person and outgoing person before then continue to be that way. Don’t let anyone change you.
So, remember today there are going to be multiple people in life that will try to hurt you but don’t let them change who you are. It’s not what happens to us in life it’s how we react to what happens to us in life. Your greatest revenge is deciding to let go and move on. The only thing that you should focus on is doing better, not to show the world that you can do it, but to prove it to yourself. The greatest roadblock in people lives is holding on to past emotions.
“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
―Shannon L. Alder