“The key to growth is acknowledging your fear of the unknown and jumping in anyway.”
It was storming one day, and my daughter was afraid. The lights flickered on and off a few times and I could hear the wind howling and the lighting was coming through the windows. She was afraid, so I told her to come sit with me on the couch. She asked me “was I afraid?” I said “no.” She then asked “what are you afraid of.” At that moment I couldn’t think of nothing, so I told her nothing. She said “really?” I said “yes.”
I used to be afraid of heights, but I got over that quickly when I had my first plane experience. I used to be afraid of storms, but they don’t bother me like they used to. I still don’t like driving in them because people always drive recklessly on the road and when you mix that with a major storm anything can happen. I used to be afraid to die also but I didn’t know why so that fear quickly went away. We all must die no one is immortal so there was no point of fearing it. Death is unexpected anyway so there’s no reason for me to walk around fearful for my life.
Since she asked me what I was afraid of I thought about it each day. Days later I finally figured it out. I realized that I was afraid of being complacent. I was afraid that I would give up on my goals, dreams, and aspirations. I was afraid that I would never accomplish them because of complacency. The reason why this scared me is because so many people I know who has potential and I believed in them, but they didn’t believe in themselves. Self-belief is important. A lot of people don’t believe in themselves or their potential. Its easy to pep talk everyone else but when it comes to ourselves it’s like pulling teeth. It’s painful, and sometimes we try to avoid it, but it must be done.
There were days when I felt like my hard work would not pay off, but it eventually did. We all are always trying to plan our future, but we forget to enjoy the present time. The things that worked out for me was never planned. It’s funny how life works that way. Everything in our life is meant to happen organically. Natural without expectation. This doesn’t mean we have to stop working towards it. It means we must focus on the work and the success from the work will come unexpectedly. I told myself I must get back to the basics in my life and stop worrying. It doesn’t change the situation by worrying but somehow people do it anyway. Trust me I used to do this. Now it’s not even an option. When you learn to take care of your mental you won’t allow small setbacks to detour you from your goals. A minor setback doesn’t compare to what’s coming in your life. Everything that never worked out for me was always replaced with something good and even bigger and better.
So, as you read this blog today ask yourself what are you afraid of? There’s nothing wrong with being afraid but let that be what propels you toward what you want in life. My fear of not accomplishing my goals and becoming complacent is what motivates me to keep going because I told myself this will never be me. I won’t allow the voice of negativity to affect the way I love and feel about my passion. So, remember today it’s okay to be afraid but don’t let your fear drive you away from what you want to accomplish in life. Ask yourself what you are afraid of and figure out what you can do with that fear?
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”