"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"- Eleanor Roosevelt
Self- doubt is that little voice in your head that creeps in when you are not confident in yourself. When trying to achieve your goals or anything in life you must believe in yourself. You cannot pursue anything if you do not believe in your own capabilities. Self-Doubt effects every decision you make in life. Relationships, finances, your career are all effected by your own self-doubt. How are you able to decide about anything when you don't believe in your own capabilities? Self-doubt stops you from reaching your full potential and the truth is that's why people usually live with regrets. They want to have confidence in themselves, but they don't know how to develop it.
I don't think we are born with self-doubt I believe it is brought on from something we experienced in life that we were confident about but didn't turn out the way we wanted it to. Maybe as a child you didn't have anyone believe in you and every time you tried to do something right it was never good in your parent’s eyes. Maybe you had multiple failed relationships which leads you to question or doubt any relationship. I'm not saying don't question your decisions, self-doubt is not having confidence in your own decisions even after you weighed the pros and cons.
People who are perfectionist usually have the self-doubt trait. Perfectionist want everything to be perfect. When something goes wrong, they blame themselves. When perfectionist makes decisions, they are constantly fighting with themselves between which decision is right or wrong. You must realize that not everything is going to be perfect including the decisions that you make. Fighting with yourself about decision worrying if they were right or wrong only brings more stress in your life. In life there are no such things as right or wrong decisions you just decide and deal with the consequences.
The worst thing that can happen from a bad decision is death and if you're dead it really doesn't matter at that point but if you survive then you learn something from the decision. I tell my children, my husband, and even myself this. Did you die? No. Well then, you're okay. You survived another decision you made pat yourself on the back. Seriously life is all about lessons. Stop fighting with yourself and doubting every decision you make in life.
We are constantly growing and evolving and part of growing comes from learning from the decisions we make in life. When I reference growing, I am speaking in terms of mental growth. The person I am today isn't the same person I was yesterday, last week, or even last year. That's one reason why I tell people each day is a new day to start over. The decisions you made yesterday has happen and there is nothing you can do to change it, so you must move on.
So, as you go about your day eliminate self-doubt. Believe in yourself and your capabilities. If you want to be successful and live a fulfilled life you must start developing some confidence in yourself. Stop worrying about the chances you didn't take because you were scared and start taking chances now. The decisions you made in the past cannot be unturned, so you have to start living your life right now.
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined.” -Henry David Thoreau