Anger is part of our emotions. We all have experienced it in life. There’s been times when I let my anger get the best of me. Dealing with people with different personalities often causes conflict. We get angry with our children, spouses, friends, family members, strangers, and the list goes on.
Anger is when our body feels annoyed or displeased with something or someone. Our body gets hot, we turn red, our blood pressure raises, and we lose our temper. Learning how to control your anger is beneficial to you as a person. Yes, we were made to experience emotions but sometimes we must accept the fact that sometimes we might not agree with someone else’s decisions.
This week I had someone get angry with me, if I didn’t know how to control my anger, we both would have been in HR. When the person approached me, I could tell that they were annoyed with me. When the person began to speak, I noticed their body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions. This person was mad at me. When I interacted with the person previously, we discussed something and in the middle of our conversation my work phone rang. I answered the phone and the person walked off before we could finish our conversation. The person never got a chance to hear my suggestions. Instead they walked off with hopes to solve their own problem.
When I went to find the person to let the person know I had resolved their issue the person was nowhere to be found. At that point I was slightly annoyed. The person didn’t communicate with me so I assumed they went on a search to figure out the problem their self. So, when they approached me in the office when finding out I was looking for them I could tell the person was pissed off at me. Once the person finish talking, I said excuse me in a polite voice because I was confused why the person was raising their voice with me. They repeated the same words and I finally said slow down, breathe, I can tell you are angry with me so, I don’t want you to continue until you calm down. I then said, this was a miss communication so for future reference let’s just make sure we are on the same page, so you won’t be upset and that was the end of the conversation.
When we are upset were not thinking straight, we talk, and forget to breathe. When we slow down and gather our words, we slowly allow our body to calm down. The person had a right to be upset with me because in their mind I wasn’t helpful.
When people are angry with us, we must sympathize and understand their frustration. I was slightly upset but we both played a part in the disagreement. I later had my breathing moment and looked at the situation from the person side and then I let it go. I was upset, the person was upset, and stuff like this is reasons why people lose friendships and relationships.
You must learn to control your anger!
Sometimes we get angry for no reason when most stuff is a miss communication. I am working on my anger and I don’t always get it right but acknowledging my faults is what helps me grow.
So, as you go about your day don’t let anyone cause you to lose your temper. You are in control of your emotions. When you get upset slow down, breathe, and then talk.
“Never respond to an angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he deserves it...Don't allow his anger to become your anger.”