Part of accomplishing your goals is accepting them as your own. We live in a generation where majority of people feel entitled. They feel like they have a right to something. I struggled with this and I know people who also struggled with this. One of the biggest confrontations is when someone has a death in a family. Especially when the person didn’t have a Will drawn. Family members go back and forth with each other on who deserves what. Why they deserve what. It can get ugly.
Another incident is when people feel entitled to get a promotion at their job. They have worked there for years, never missed a day, have experience but is bypassed by someone else. Someone with less experience, years, and horrible work ethics. They often question themselves why things keep happening to me?
Things happen in life to everyone. Not just me or whoever reading this. Sometimes things happen to people more than us and vice versa. All that matters is how we react to what happens to us. Yes, you want things in life that’s understandable, but you can’t expect things based on factors you created in your own head. I can recall wanting a position and was bypassed by someone who had lesser experience and time with the company. When they informed me of why I didn’t get the job they told me that I didn’t have enough computer skills. I got so angry because I knew I had the skills. I was supposed to have that position. Me. Me. Me.
I finally had to get a hold of myself and question myself. Why did I believe he didn’t deserve the position just as much as I did? After fussing with myself I realized I was struggling with a spirit of entitlement. When you believe everything in life belongs to you then you’ll never be successful. Nobody owes us nothing. There’s going to be multiple opportunities in life that are going to bypass us. You just always want to be prepared for and future opportunities that may come your way.
So, what does entitlement have to do with goals. Goals usually involve a reward at the end. If losing weight is your goal and after three months you give up. You’re experiencing a spirit of entitlement. Normally people give up when they don’t see results as quick as they expected. They become entitled because they expect things to happen in their time. In life there are going to be times when things take longer than expected. You must develop patience. Trust me I struggle with this to. I like quick results. Quick responses. Nobody likes to wait. That’s why we have so many fast food places because people like things quick and fast. When you’re waiting uncertainty and anxiety kicks in and that’s when a lot of people give up.
So, as you plan your goals work on them with expectance that it will take some time. Everything has a process. I have learned when it’s your time it will happen but while you wait enjoy the process.
Everybody deserves love, but nobody is entitled to it.
Katerina Stoykova Klemer
“The problem with socialism is that you eventually run out of other people's money.” “Man is not, by nature, deserving of all that he wants. When we think that we are automatically entitled to something, that is when we start walking all over others to get it.”