The people you surround yourself with do have an influence on your life. Sometimes we don’t realize how much the people we hang out with, influences us. When you were a child, your parents influenced you, so you did the things that your parents taught you. As you got older, and became a teenager, your friends you hanged out with, influenced you. Now as an adult, you are stilling being influenced by your friends, and family. Our friends, family, and coworkers, can all contribute to our lives, in a positive, and negative way. If you hang around people who gossip, you’ll become a gossiper. If you hang around negative people, you’ll become negative. You become the company you keep. I’m a positive person, and I try to see good in every situation, but if I continued to hang out with negative people, I wouldn’t be writing a blog to inspire people. The saying “be careful of the company you keep” is true because bad company ruins your character.
When you’re a teenager, you want to fit in, so you do the things that you think is cool, and eventually lead you down the path of trouble. When I was a teenager, I was insecure, I felt like I had to do things for people to like me, or so I could be “cool”. I remember feeling uncool because some of my friends had a boyfriend, and they were having sex, and I wasn’t. I thought, maybe I needed to do it because they were doing it, which isn’t a good idea. As I grown, and mature into the woman I am today, I look back at my younger self as motivation to be different. Being different isn’t always accepted, people genuinely follow crowds. Though as a teenager, I felt like I needed to fit in, as an adult, I don’t care about fitting in. I decided to cut toxic people out of my life because I’m responsible for my health, and wellbeing, and people that were constantly draining me, I removed them from my life. If you have goals in life, and you want to grow, then you can’t surround yourself with people without desires, or goals.
If you have people constantly reminding you of your past, and how you won’t get through it, remove them from your life. I’m not saying don’t ever speak to them again, but learn to love people from a distance. I stopped hanging out with a lot of people I love, and I care about them, but I had to do what was right for me. It hurts sometimes, eliminating people you love, so you can grow, but it hurts even worst, by allowing yourself to be surrounded around people who are pulling you down. I felt myself coming someone else, and I had to find myself again. When I decided to change myself, there was some criticizers, and discouragers, but I kept going. There was also people in my life encouraging me, supporting me, and helping me on my journey. These types of people, are the company you should keep. “Surround yourself with the dreamers, and the doers, the believers, and the thinkers, but most all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself” -Ashley Fern
· Remember your wellbeing comes before anyone else. I always go by the motto, “take care of yourself, so you can take care of someone else”. When I changed myself, my attitude, and my aura, I became a better person, which was better for the people around me. My husband, our children, even my friends, noticed a difference in me. I didn’t realize that my negative behavior was affecting negatively on the people I love.
· It's okay to be different. I know that being different isn’t always praised, but I admire people who are different, and original. There is no one like you, so why try to be anyone else. I have children, and I encourage them each day to be different, don't follow crowds, because if you make decisions based on what you feel is right, then you will have less regrets.
· Don’t feel bad because you decided to better yourself. I used to feel bad because I want everyone to be successful, and when I got new positions at my job, I was ashamed to tell people because I didn’t want them to think I was bragging about my success. I realized that if people genuinely loved me, and were my friends, then they would be happy for me. I had to stop worrying about people because there are going to be the people, who are always unhappy, these are the people you don’t need in your life.
The company you keep around you reflects the Character that's within you. Protect your Brand.